If you live in Michigan and are considering a divorce or separation, you know that the process can be exponentially more difficult if children are involved. Not only do you have to settle issues such as asset division, spousal support and child custody, but you also have to worry about your kids and how they are adjusting to their new lives. Some parents assume it is best to stay in a marriage at all costs, but kids do better with a smooth divorce than they do with a high-conflict marriage. This shows that sometimes splitting up is the best option for kids.
KidsHealth focuses on ways that parents can make divorce a bit easier on the kids. They suggest that each parent should stay as involved in each child’s life as much as possible. This may involve volunteering in their classroom, coaching their soccer teams or keeping the kids while your ex goes out. Look for every opportunity possible to be with your children.
Any blame and negativity regarding your spouse should be expressed with family or friends outside the home or in professional counseling sessions. While it is important to express your feelings and allow your kids to do the same, any negative feelings associated with the other parent can be hard for kids to reconcile.
All legal talk, visible conflict and heated discussions should be kept far away from the children. Even if the divorce is amicable, there is bound to be tension at some point. Do your best to keep these conversations in places where they will not affect the child.
Finally, you should also stick to the normal routine as much as possible. Do your best to not disrupt the kids’ routines as they go through the changes at home. Any consistency or stability they can hold on to will help them adjust in the right ways.
This is for educational purposes and should not be interpreted as legal advice.