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How can I help my kids through divorce?

On Behalf of | Nov 27, 2019 | Child Custody and Parenting Time, Divorce

When you are going through a divorce in Michigan, it is easy to focus on your own emotional needs and be consumed with worry about how to handle the future. It is important to keep these concerns front and foremost, as they are vital, but if you have children in the picture things become even more complicated. Not only are there two adults going through the process of divorce, but also children. Whether the child is very young or a teenager, they are going to have to learn how to cope with the divorce at the same clip that the parents are. One of the most important ways of helping your children through divorce, according to WebMD, is to refrain from bad-mouthing your ex-spouse. 

While this might sound obvious in reason, it can be difficult to live through practice. It is natural if you have some negative feelings toward your ex-spouse during the divorce process, even if the divorce itself is relatively amicable. However, it is important for you to keep in mind that no matter how upset you may be at your ex-spouse, that person is one of your child’s parents and that will never change. Even if you are reasonably sure that your child harbors bad feelings toward the other parent, do yourself and them a favor and do not encourage these feelings. 

Generally speaking, best form after divorce is to pursue joint custody of the children if it is possible. If you have ill-will toward your ex-spouse, you may benefit from meeting at a neutral spot (like a restaurant or a library) for custody transfer. Keeping things as peaceful as possible between you and your ex-spouse will go a long way toward smoothing the divorce for the kids.